I'm guilty. I bribed my child tonight. We ate pizza for dinner, which Hannah gobbled down. I also gave her applesauce...another favorite, but she wouldn't touch it. I told her that she needed to eat her applesauce or she wouldn't get any "Dora snacks" (see below post) for dessert. She threw a fit and flung herself around in her chair for a good five minutes, crying and moaning. Apparently these "Dora snacks" have some major pull in our house. She reluctantly opened her mouth and let me shovel the applesauce in. And all was right with the world as soon as she had those gummies in her hand!
I've tried to use dessert as a bribe MANY times, but she has never given in before. I'd like to think that this is a developmental milestone of sorts - maybe she is starting to understand that you have to do things that you don't want to in order to get the reward at the end.
I'm just desperate to make sure she eats healthy food on a regular basis. I hope this doesn't make me a bad mom!
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You're so NOT a bad mom! I think it's great that you want her to eat healthy. I think you're establishing good habits. And, I would say that is a developmental milestone - cause and effect. Pretty good skill.
Hi there! Today wasn’t as great of a success, she’s being a little more resistant to sitting on the potty…sigh. Oh well, she’ll get it eventually! As for deciding when she was ready, I waited until she was waking up from naps with a dry diaper. I felt like that was a good sign that her bladder was able hold it. I also waited until she had words for it and knew the difference between “ucky” and “pee-pee”, so she could hopefully communicate more easily. We also let her sit on the potty before bathtime so she could get use to it. She did start pooping in the potty a couple of weeks ago and while I was SO happy to not take care of dirty diapers, I think it may have confused her into thinking that she’s suppose to poop on the potty, but it’s okay to pee in your pants. I kind of wish I would have waited on even having her poop in the potty and just gone cold turkey into underwear like I did with Riley. He was such a breeze…seriously, one day, but I also waited until he was 2 ½ and Brooke is still a couple of months shy of that. Anyway… we’re cold turkey now and I only put her in a cloth diaper over her underwear during naptime and then a disposable diaper at nighttime. I’m not using pullups except for the at the gym (they insist…otherwise I wouldn’t use them at all), I think it makes it more to clear to them that it’s not ok to pee in their pants when it runs down their leg as opposed to just feeling a little wet! I think there so many different ways to potty train out there…I’m sure you’re figure out what works best for you both! I hope my ridiculously long post helps a little! In fact, let me just give you my email…..groves.jennifer@gmail.com
PS. Don't feel guilty about the bribe! I do it all the time!! I'll offer a dessert some nights, but only if they finish what they eat.(And a "dessert" to them is sometimes 2 M&Ms and they're totally fine with it!) I don't want to force them to eat, so I always tell them to stop when they are full. But if they are too full for dinner, then they are too full for dessert! There's nothing wrong with a little "encouragement" sometimes!
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